freedom or safety
You can have freedom or safety.
They are opposites if you want one then you have compromise some of the other you can not have all of both.
Safety can at times feel like a cage it can keep things out but it keeps you in you must keep the key to the door of freedom to have away out if the safety of samnus get destructive and/or abusive.
You can have the key to freedom but the locks will likely be changed so if you try to go back to that safety will'v moved on.