"you should be grateful"?

I really don't like that people tell other people "you should be grateful".

It's always some fucked up false equivalence and/or telling you don't have the right to feel or that what they are experiencing doesn't matter.

Maybe there is a good way of using it but if you "have a roof over your head" you can still have a broken fridge, no running water, no heat and air, your house could be falling apart ect. You can have still have things like a running car, a computer ect. there can be thing that could still kill you. People might give you help in some ways but not in other and you could have some money but not enough to fix things. You might have to do things like go to the library because you could die from the heat so you have to eat out all the time.

You shouldn't have to feel grateful for not being discriminated against, hurt or killed by someone. And just because some things might have gotten better doesn't make that other shit ok.

Having any kind of disability developmental, intellectual, mental, physical, sensory, or some combination of these. Knowing some else has a hard life doesn't magically fixes things you have in your life. Like one of the things I have is dyslexia knowing how hard life is for someone that's blind, isn't going to help me with filling out forms, doing school work, reading or writing anything that's important.

If you have mental health by definition you are acting, feeling, and/or experiencing is abnormal. So telling someone that other people have lose so much and they are happy is just pointing out how abnormal they are and they will likely feel even more isolated from society.

If you feel better by being more grateful good for you but telling other people they should or have to be grateful is often going to make them feel like they don't matter to you.