All relationships are give and take

As humans we share in a way that we store things we can't keep without it going bad in other people I share with you then you will share with me. It's not bartering but sharing without a formal agreement.

We share then we become a group so the more self reliant we think we or others should be the more isolated people become.

So selfishness = isolation. If you feel alone start sharing but you can't just give you have to accept what they have to give as well. You can't just give you have to receive as well.

It can make you feel good or powerful to give but when you receive you feel weak, exposed, and vulnerable it ties you to people that give it to you in a way that just giving doesn't.

All relationships are give and take. It's not just what it takes to keep a relationship it is the way relationships are formed.