arguments devolve

I think all arguments devolve into calling someone stupid or ugly. Real arguments are by their very nature not a good time to learn anything. Someone might think about it later and change their minds after they have looked into it themselves. For the most part arguments like laughter is a release of tension and we kind of need to do it from time to time. But now that people can go online and do it all the time without the real lose that can come from doing it in real life, people are becoming addicted to it. Maybe the people doing it are using it as an outlet to subvert their own violent tendencies, they care passionately about something or maybe they are unhappy and want to make other people unhappy? The core or root of the argument is always love and/or fear. 90% of the arguments I have in real life are because one or more of us is tired and/or hungry. I know all this and still get mad and get into arguments I am totally illogical but very human.